Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Wedding Tip #5: How Not to Propose

Gentlemen, now that you have chosen the perfect engagement ring for your soon-to-be-bride, the next obvious step is the proposal. If you found the task of ring selection daunting, take a deep breath, because this is just as important. So to make the brain storming a little less confusing, here a few ways no one should propose anymore.


Hiding the ring in the food: Here is an idea that is just fraught with danger.

Not only has it been done so many times it has crossed the line into being a cliché, but imagine the health hazards, should something go wrong. There have been plenty of reported cases where the girl overlooks the ring in her glass of champagne, chocolate mousse, or, as most recently reported, a Wendy’s milkshake. Two options remain when the worst happens and the ring gets gobbled up; she chokes and someone must perform the Heimlich maneuver, or things go south in a less delightful turn. There are better ways to spend the night celebrating the engagement.

A highly public proposal: You’re asking for trouble.

The idea is that you are so proud of your love that you just want to shout it from the rooftops. But the score board at Madison Square Garden, a party with family and friends, and a crowded restaurant with your waiter standing by, are all places you do not want to take the chance of a lifetime. Not only are you inviting too many other people into a very intimate moment, you are adding pressure to an already stressful situation. People will cheer, service will stop, and all eyes could be on you. Keep this private moment private so the two of you can enjoy your new start together.

Facebook and Twitter: Not OK.

Speaking of public engagements, there is no more public way to live your life than to be on Facebook these days. Twitter allows the rest of the world to be kept up-to-date on what you are doing all the time. These are fun ways to pass the time on the computer, share your pictures with your friends, or keep in touch with college buddies. It is never a good way to pop the question, but as unbelievable as it may seem, there has been an influx of digital proposal in the last two years. March 2nd of 2008 was the first reporting of a Twitter proposal from a couple that traveled constantly. And like so many things in life, the first time is original and only the first time. Make sure to give someone your undivided attention if you want them to feel special, and wouldn’t it be nice to hand them a ring?

Valentine’s Day: The ultimate cliché.

This idea could actually go either way, it could be a way to make this February 14th even more special, or it could be a dead giveaway. If this has never been a hugely celebrated holiday for you two, the minute you make a big fuss the jig will be up. The over the top colored hearts already sets a slightly schmaltzy setting as it is, so why add to the cliché? Nothing says romance and love more than flowers and candy. Actually, an engagement does. So let the cheese stand alone, and give the ring its own special day.

With all other things in a relationship, nobody knows what will be special accept for those involved, and a proposal is no exception. So use or disregard the above information at your own discretion. Do you have a horrible, or hopefully, great proposal story you want to share with us? Log onto our Facebook page and give us the details.

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